We need more Mother Son!

OK so this post is a RANT about the high level of Mother Daughter, Father daughter and Father son stuff Leaving us MOB women to say What the Heck....... YOU WERE WARNED!!!! 

So ever since I become a MOB I have noticed A LOT of Father son baseball games, football tournaments, Fishing things etc... Like wise with Mother Daughter Mani/Pedis, Teas etc...
Which I understand!  It is good to nurture those bonds and Teach our Sons to be men and our Daughters to be women. That is good and healthy. But then I start seeing all the Father Daughter events...... These purity balls and Father daughter dances and with the captions or the reasoning behind them is " daddy teaching his daughter how to be treated by a man". REALLY?  Please hear me out it is great to take your daughter on a date and show her how a guy should treat her, and do the whole purity thing. But why are we stressing it so so so much with the girls?  Isn't that telling young women that they are only valued for being pure?  I know because I did this when I was a teen, and guess what when I didn't wait I felt Worthless and suffered from Low self esteem and bouts of depression after! Is that really the message we want to teach young women? It also imply s to these girls that it doesn't matter if a boy waits but they sure as heck better!
Trust me I am going to explain to my boys why they should wait! I will explain from both a biblical standpoint and a human standpoint why I think it is important, but I will let them know that their worth as a Man, a husband and a future father is not tied to that one act. Because lets face it we are all Human and we all sin! Which brings me to my next point.....
We teach our daughters, that daddy will take you on a date to show you how a man should treat you but who is teaching our boys how to be men?  With so many boys growing up today without a father who is Manning up and teaching them??? I am speaking now for all my single moms as I am very fortunate to have a Loving Husband who does stress the importance of treating women with respect to our boys.
You want to stress to girls how to be treated, then America needs to WAKE UP and realize we must teach out boys to to treat those girls. Think about this...... It is easy for daddy to take a daughter on a date and say and show her this is how a boy should act when you are on a date or alone with him! But you cant take a boy on a date with mom and dad ( that's weird) and dad taking his son out and telling him how to treat a woman is fine but there is no practical application there. So How do or should boys learn to take a woman on a date, how should we teach them to treat a young lady?  Please Parents comment below and let me know your thoughts and feelings on this post, this is one time I welcome open discussion in this blog. 

I teach my boys on my own to open doors for women and elderly, their father has told them time and again if mommy gets to a door you better open it for her. But why as a society aren't we focusing more on this side of the coin? Why do these churches, organizations etc.... only cater to the girls. I myself have thought of putting on a mother son dance but have you looked at what it costs to put on an event like these father daughter dances???? OH MY WORD it is outrageous!!!! So then the Question is How do we both tell our boys how to act and treat women and also have practical application without Mother son events?

That Makes no Sence!

So I promised you a funny post today and Last Wednesday produced material for today's funny blog.
ASH WEDNESDAY......
So every year at our church we have a Servants supper prior to the church service for dinner. Well that is where our story begins. If you have never been to a servants supper let me explain, there is soup, bread and deserts but you are not allowed to serve yourself or ask for food. Once the food is blessed everyone asks others what we can do for them and we all serve one another. Naturally the kids get all jazzed up about this and then they get sugar!!!! Cakes, brownies, cookies and all kinds of sweets are there. WOW who ever thought we should give kids sugar before church was a Genius! so then we go into the somber service. Ash service in our Methodist church is very somber and reverent. It is a time to ponder what Christ has given and done for us. So there Dylan is sandwiched between my dad and Bear his gig brother. He is only just 3 and did great threw the opening Hymn. Then Wham... kids energy kicks in, he begins using the hymnals as drums,  and then proceeds to hit his older brother with them. Move number 1 occurs and he is now sitting between My dad and mom . But that's just the beginning then he turns and starts making faces at the elderly couple behind us. By that point my Mom friend across the isle form me is giggling probably cause she has been there and done that! So Dylan gets moved down the row  yet again and is now between me and my mom. At this point I can lean down and try to Talk him down from his sugar hi. This is like trying to talk to that crazy drunk friend in college! There is no reasoning with a sugared up 3 year old. So he starts trying to use the pencils in the pew in front of us as drum sticks. This is it Ive had it the final move!!! He is now sandwiched between DADDY and MOMMY! you think this stops him HA not a chance. He was quite for all of 30 seconds. We are nearing the finish of the service and pastor is explaining the process of getting your ashes and why we do that, and Dylan pipes up loudly and said "Now that makes no Sence" WOW just WOW! I had to bite my lip from laughing. OH Wait it gets better. Then Dylan walks up to receive his Ashes and refuses. No worries we go back to our seat after the rest of us are ashed. As the last group is going Dylan pipes up again looking at my head "Mommy I want one!" so my mom takes him down again and this time he did get his ashes. OH My what a day that was. But in it all the embarrassment, the laughter and the lessons learned I clung to one thing in the bible said " For you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness" James 1:3.

The 2nd child is my wild man but he it teaching me humility, patience and how to remain steadfast to my faith and teachings.

A Dream DIES and a New one is Born

I am giving ALL you mommies fair WARNING this post is full of mixed emotions and feelings Moms with ONLY boys feel. I urge you if you are a MOB but you also have a daughter Please don't Judge!!!! I am sure there are several moms out that that this doesn't apply to our you just aren't at that stage yet, but I do have a network of mommies that I talk to who have All boys and we have all stated some/or all of the Feelings about to be discussed have been felt off and on!
YOU ARE WARNED:

So the other day we left off with Finding out your having ANOTHER Boy! YEAHHHHHH Congrats.
Now if you are like me and you started your family later in Life this joyous time can also be the END of a Dream.
For Ryan and I we knew we were done after this 2nd baby. We lost 3 children to miscarriage before we were Blessed with Barrett our 1st son at the age of 30, so naturally we were hesitant to try for a 2nd child. Finally at 34 years old we both decided its now or never. Wouldn't you know it we got pregnant 1st try with this kiddo! Everything was going great, and the pregnancy was AMAZING this go round unlike the1st. Then at the 20 week Ultrasound it was the Big day, Gender reveal!!!!!! 1/2 way through the US the tech said Ok do you want to know the gender????  YES!!! " Congrats its another boy"

Before I continue.......  Imagine if you will your Dream, something you have longed for all your whole life?  Maybe a Family, a husband, the perfect beach wedding, Maybe a certain job or car or something you have worked toward and are/or have aspired to obtain. GOT IT Pictured? Great now imagine through no fault of your own that dream is crushed, killed and you can and will NEVER be able to have that! Congratulations you just felt what I felt at that very moment!
You see I was not sad I was having a baby boy, I was thrilled I love boys!!! But all my life, since I was a little girl playing with my dolls, I dreamed of having a little girl. A daughter to do all that fun mom and daughter stuff with. Mother daughter Tea ( thanks Junior League), mother daughter days filled with shopping and mani/ pedis. Gone. Wiped away forever.
Moms who have one of each or a mix don't get this feeling, but let me assure you if you are a new MOB it's ok for feel sad for the daughter you will never have. I get it and moms with Daughters DON'T and WILL NEVER get it!!!! We feel it every time we see the posts about the father daughter dances, or mother daughter tea parties, or prom time just knowing we will never get to help our daughter learn to wear makeup, or brush her hair, or pick out a prom dress. We wont get to be the mother of the bride, or help her experience being pregnant from a moms point of view, or even be in there when our Daughter gives birth. As a MOB we get it we feel it and that's why I created this blog was to have an open place to share the things that society and our friends wont let us say! Know that its Ok to be sad about those things we have to miss out on but rest assured we have our own fun and memories to make. We get to be Football moms and share some amazing moments with our boys but we get to do so from the sidelines not really being a part of the action. Its a New Dream, a Different Dream but if us MOB mommies unite and create fun things that Teach our Boys how to Grow into Men then we can have a New and Even better Dream. We must 1st learn to embrace what God gave us and understand we were chosen to stand up and stand out as Moms who raise MEN!
I firmly believe God knew what he way doing, though I am still not 100% sure why! Maybe it is so that I can relate to my husband who's dream was stolen from him unfairly? Maybe it is so that I can start a movement among Parents and more over Moms of Boys?  Idk but whatever the reason I am up for the challenge.

Stay tuned the next MOB Mentality blog will be about something funny!

Bringing home Boy!

Bringing home a baby boy is so exciting and fun! You are a new mommy/1st time parent and you have no clue what this sweet precious baby boy has waiting for you. You strap him in to his new snug ride Graco car seat, the nurse comes out and double checks that you did it right, and away you go. just curious, How did we ever survive before car seats, BTW??? Anyway you drive home, probably 10-15 miles under the speed limit, full of excitement wonder and the joy of having your little future athlete in the back seat! You get home take some cute we are a family of 3 pics at your front door, Something we opted out of BTW, and you enter your home! You walk in and sit down only to realize your sweet bundle of joy doesn't smell so sweet any more. Scary thought but your kind of excited cause its the 1st diaper change in your home, with your stuff in his new room! HA HA HA. SO here we go.....
 As most new moms of boys find out VERY early on this is not just a diaper change but a medical procedure and it kind of feels like you are on a game show trying to beat the clock and dodging flying objects. Let me explain.... Part one Medical procedure, well as 65% of Americans who have sons are now coming home with a circumcised baby boy, you now get to play Dr. and take care of this new Raw boy. They do this right as you are leaving the hospital, probably so they can laugh at us new parents. They hand you baby boy and all they tell you is use lots of Vaseline and gauze. Literally those were our instructions?????, COME ON this is only my sons future manhood I am taking care of here you would think they would give some better care advise. Well NO! So you peel off the Dirty diaper, and the gauze that by now is stuck to his boy parts and you freak cause its got blood on it( this is normal ladies) and Remember this is your 1st Rodeo with a boy! You proceed to Wipe his butt and all is going well when WHAM it hits you!!!! Pee in the face on the walls and Yes ladies in your Hair! HOW, WHY, WHAT THE DEVIL!!!!! Yes with Both of my boys within 15 min of having them home they had both pooped and peed on me and my walls! Yes those boys are regular pee machines but more on that later. So once the Shock wears off , you dry off baby, get the new diaper ready and attempt to doctor his boy parts, all the time praying you dont hurt him or damage it! It happens again you didnt wait long enough and out comes more poo. You get the another new diaper on, clean up the mess that this precious gift has made and retreat to the couch to relax! HA HA HA WRONG time to Feed! And so begins the viscous cycle! But Ladies you know what over the next 2 years you learn to change diapers faster then a tire changer at a NASCAR Race, and you become a Pro at boy body functions. Life returns to simi normal over those few Years or in my case 4 1/2 Years then WHAM your having ANOTHER boy!!!!
Breath Ladies! Breath!!!! Boy # 2 you got this, your a pro at boys!!! Then along with the hormones you are flooded with other emotions, about baby boy #2 that you never expected.
Tune in Tomorrow for more on those feelings! ( warning that will be a more serious blog) I plan to make most funny but sprinkle in blogs on the emotions and feelings that we moms of boys face and are often scolded for having!

Welcome to MOB Mentality! All boy all the time

Hello my name is Kristen and I am a MOB. If you are unaware of what MOB stands,  this blogs probably not for you unless you just like reading crazy stories.MOB - Mom of Boys!!!

I am writing this for All the moms out there who have Boys and especially for the moms of ALL Boys!
It was 8 years ago when I discovered that I was God was blessing us with a son I was elated I couldn't wait, and I still love every minute of it. Then 4 Years ago when at 34 years old I was told we were having a 2nd boy! I was still excited but also nervous, sad and lets be Honest MOB mommy's a little heart broken knowing this was to be our last child and I would never get a Daughter, something I always as a woman dreamed of ( but more posts on that in the future).  Since then I have Loved every minute of being a MOB. I love the Sports, the rough and tumble attitudes, and Yes the messes. It's a Blast being a MOB but its also very Hard. MOB's ALL understand that it hard sometimes being the only female in the house, Never getting to watch chick flicks, having to always play referee, and the SMELL......
What can I say about the smells that come out of and off of boys!
This is a blog to express the ups and downs of being a MOB and I encourage any of you reading to share with me your personal stories too.
SIDE NOTE: This is only a fun blog, I an not a professional writer, and I misspell words a lot, i use run on sentences like they are going out of style and I have the worst grammar, but again this is for fun and its a way to share what God has taught me through being a MOB. 
So Welcome!!!! And be on the look out for weekly MOB blogs! ALSO be WARNED.... The MOB Mentality is often full of disgusting noises, sounds and smells that come with and from boys. Nasty body part Jokes and lets face it the things Boys say are sometimes just WHAT THE HECK Kinda moments! I hope you enjoy.