OK so this post is a RANT about the high level of Mother Daughter, Father daughter and Father son stuff Leaving us MOB women to say What the Heck....... YOU WERE WARNED!!!!
So ever since I become a MOB I have noticed A LOT of Father son baseball games, football tournaments, Fishing things etc... Like wise with Mother Daughter Mani/Pedis, Teas etc...
Which I understand! It is good to nurture those bonds and Teach our Sons to be men and our Daughters to be women. That is good and healthy. But then I start seeing all the Father Daughter events...... These purity balls and Father daughter dances and with the captions or the reasoning behind them is " daddy teaching his daughter how to be treated by a man". REALLY? Please hear me out it is great to take your daughter on a date and show her how a guy should treat her, and do the whole purity thing. But why are we stressing it so so so much with the girls? Isn't that telling young women that they are only valued for being pure? I know because I did this when I was a teen, and guess what when I didn't wait I felt Worthless and suffered from Low self esteem and bouts of depression after! Is that really the message we want to teach young women? It also imply s to these girls that it doesn't matter if a boy waits but they sure as heck better!
Trust me I am going to explain to my boys why they should wait! I will explain from both a biblical standpoint and a human standpoint why I think it is important, but I will let them know that their worth as a Man, a husband and a future father is not tied to that one act. Because lets face it we are all Human and we all sin! Which brings me to my next point.....
We teach our daughters, that daddy will take you on a date to show you how a man should treat you but who is teaching our boys how to be men? With so many boys growing up today without a father who is Manning up and teaching them??? I am speaking now for all my single moms as I am very fortunate to have a Loving Husband who does stress the importance of treating women with respect to our boys.
You want to stress to girls how to be treated, then America needs to WAKE UP and realize we must teach out boys to to treat those girls. Think about this...... It is easy for daddy to take a daughter on a date and say and show her this is how a boy should act when you are on a date or alone with him! But you cant take a boy on a date with mom and dad ( that's weird) and dad taking his son out and telling him how to treat a woman is fine but there is no practical application there. So How do or should boys learn to take a woman on a date, how should we teach them to treat a young lady? Please Parents comment below and let me know your thoughts and feelings on this post, this is one time I welcome open discussion in this blog.
I teach my boys on my own to open doors for women and elderly, their father has told them time and again if mommy gets to a door you better open it for her. But why as a society aren't we focusing more on this side of the coin? Why do these churches, organizations etc.... only cater to the girls. I myself have thought of putting on a mother son dance but have you looked at what it costs to put on an event like these father daughter dances???? OH MY WORD it is outrageous!!!! So then the Question is How do we both tell our boys how to act and treat women and also have practical application without Mother son events?
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ReplyDeleteUnfortunately there are not may events that cater to boys how to treat girl and trust me as a mom of girls, this is discouraging. I want me girls to fall in love with a God fearing man that is a true gentleman. I think its safe to say that unless you have the time and money (which most of us don't) to organize something like this, then the reality is that this learning will have to be taught my the parents (most likely mom). You can take son out on a date and say it is respectful to open the door for a lady and then have him do it from that point forward. Its always good to back it up by action from Dad. I have never been a fan of the purity ring gesture. I get the whole sentiment behind it and I do believe that abstinence should be taught as a real option regardless of what the world says. However, to me this should be a promise between God and the young lady or young man, minus the inclusion of the parent at the appropriate age. I would also encourage you to lower your expectations that learning opportunities and things should be equal for boys and girls. Fact is that they aren't. You found this out early one when you went to shop for your newborn boy. Lots of pink girly stuff, and half the section to choose from for boys.For me, I will also like to add that I would love for my girls to become future Landons' one day, you are Ryan are definitely doing things right.
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