A Dream DIES and a New one is Born

I am giving ALL you mommies fair WARNING this post is full of mixed emotions and feelings Moms with ONLY boys feel. I urge you if you are a MOB but you also have a daughter Please don't Judge!!!! I am sure there are several moms out that that this doesn't apply to our you just aren't at that stage yet, but I do have a network of mommies that I talk to who have All boys and we have all stated some/or all of the Feelings about to be discussed have been felt off and on!
YOU ARE WARNED:

So the other day we left off with Finding out your having ANOTHER Boy! YEAHHHHHH Congrats.
Now if you are like me and you started your family later in Life this joyous time can also be the END of a Dream.
For Ryan and I we knew we were done after this 2nd baby. We lost 3 children to miscarriage before we were Blessed with Barrett our 1st son at the age of 30, so naturally we were hesitant to try for a 2nd child. Finally at 34 years old we both decided its now or never. Wouldn't you know it we got pregnant 1st try with this kiddo! Everything was going great, and the pregnancy was AMAZING this go round unlike the1st. Then at the 20 week Ultrasound it was the Big day, Gender reveal!!!!!! 1/2 way through the US the tech said Ok do you want to know the gender????  YES!!! " Congrats its another boy"

Before I continue.......  Imagine if you will your Dream, something you have longed for all your whole life?  Maybe a Family, a husband, the perfect beach wedding, Maybe a certain job or car or something you have worked toward and are/or have aspired to obtain. GOT IT Pictured? Great now imagine through no fault of your own that dream is crushed, killed and you can and will NEVER be able to have that! Congratulations you just felt what I felt at that very moment!
You see I was not sad I was having a baby boy, I was thrilled I love boys!!! But all my life, since I was a little girl playing with my dolls, I dreamed of having a little girl. A daughter to do all that fun mom and daughter stuff with. Mother daughter Tea ( thanks Junior League), mother daughter days filled with shopping and mani/ pedis. Gone. Wiped away forever.
Moms who have one of each or a mix don't get this feeling, but let me assure you if you are a new MOB it's ok for feel sad for the daughter you will never have. I get it and moms with Daughters DON'T and WILL NEVER get it!!!! We feel it every time we see the posts about the father daughter dances, or mother daughter tea parties, or prom time just knowing we will never get to help our daughter learn to wear makeup, or brush her hair, or pick out a prom dress. We wont get to be the mother of the bride, or help her experience being pregnant from a moms point of view, or even be in there when our Daughter gives birth. As a MOB we get it we feel it and that's why I created this blog was to have an open place to share the things that society and our friends wont let us say! Know that its Ok to be sad about those things we have to miss out on but rest assured we have our own fun and memories to make. We get to be Football moms and share some amazing moments with our boys but we get to do so from the sidelines not really being a part of the action. Its a New Dream, a Different Dream but if us MOB mommies unite and create fun things that Teach our Boys how to Grow into Men then we can have a New and Even better Dream. We must 1st learn to embrace what God gave us and understand we were chosen to stand up and stand out as Moms who raise MEN!
I firmly believe God knew what he way doing, though I am still not 100% sure why! Maybe it is so that I can relate to my husband who's dream was stolen from him unfairly? Maybe it is so that I can start a movement among Parents and more over Moms of Boys?  Idk but whatever the reason I am up for the challenge.

Stay tuned the next MOB Mentality blog will be about something funny!