Yes it is us MOB's that do need to Train our boys along with their fathers to Respect your daughters, to show our boys how to Love, respect and treat a lady, But lets Emphasis LADY!!!
I have seen so many FB posts about how our boys need to not look at your daughters as sex objects, this is usually attached to some post about why cant girls wear spaghetti strap cami's to school, or posts about who cares about the length of their shorts or skirts, cause it gets really hot in the summer etc.... Stating that it shouldn't distract our boys if we raised them not to objectify your girls???? WHAT?
Lets get something straight! It is distracting to me if I go into the office trying to work, and a woman is leaning over the desk in a low cut top with here boobs there for all to see, or wearing a skirt that leaves nothing to the imagination. NO I am not Bi, but it is very distracting and if I am a woman who is offended or distracted I hate to think how it affects our boys! God created men and boys to be sexually attracted to women, if they weren't we would never grow the worlds population and none of us would be here! That said I am not saying boys have the right to pop your daughters bra straps, or in any way, shape or form inappropriately touch your girls. What I am saying is girls need to practice modesty and not put it in these boys faces and not expect them to desire more. As a Married woman I can tell you modesty starts at home! If mamma feels its ok to walk around in short booty shorts or with her cleavage hanging out her daughter will probably follow suit. You cant tell your daughter don't act or dress like mommy and expect her to really listen. I have heard moms say "Well I am married so I can wear this and who cares if I show my cleavage it is only for my husband" ( a good friend used this statement on me when we were discussing this topic. To which I replied " If that's the case then why are other women's husbands and boyfriends staring at you or your body when you are in the store." You may be Married but dressing that way causes other man to lust and that's not what God intended for you or for them. Scripture says in Matthew 5 verse 27- 28, "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."and in 1 Corinthians 8:9 "But take care that this right of yours does not somehow become a stumbling block to the weak."
WE must ALL take responsibility for ourselves and our kids. I personally don't dress in a provocative manner because I try to show my boys what a woman should dress like, and how she should conduct herself. Which brings me to my next point!
I am not saying Don't teach your girls to be fierce, strong , independent women, because We need more strong independent women in this world. What I am saying is Cut the Crap! Stop teaching girls it's ok to have a double standard. If a boy wears a boys rule girls drool shirt He is chastised for it and in some schools made to go home and change but girls do it and it is called Girl power and considered empowering.You cant teach boys never hit a girl but if a girl hits a boy it is ok. WRONG! If your daughter is woman enough to hit a boy she better expect to get hit back! Let me just state for the record that Hitting either direction is NEVER OK!!! But I do know someone who was being beaten by a woman at home, and when asked why he never defended himself he said "I was raised never to hit a woman, and I love her" so please understand domestic violence goes both ways!
I don't write this just as a MOB, I am a woman who use to be a teen girl. I recently found my diary from when I was a teen and OH MY!!!! I forgot how how Crazy little girls can be. If I ever heard a little girl talking to my son the way I talked to my now husband as a teen and preteen I would be having a serious talk with both Her and her parents and their pastor! LOL Seriously though Girls and really Teen Girls can be just as bad as boys, so don't think just cause she is a girl she is an angel.
I promise to Raise my boys to respect women, but lets raise our girls to respect not just Men but themselves too.
Finally I had amazing parents who raised me in Church and I can tell you in that house you had to be on your death bed to miss church, but I was still a teen and I made bad choices sometimes. All kids do! and When they do we need to teach them its ok but we also need to hold them accountable. So rather then Telling each other (as parents) its your kids fault lets teach both kids how to dress, talk and act in the name of God with respect.
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